Book Review: Ilaria Vilkelis - Your Happy Home Quest

(English Version only)

When you buy or rent a home you make a decision that will affect your future. Maybe months, years or a lifetime. How do you decide? How to you find a place that suits you. You, your families and loved ones interests, daily habits, rituals and life style.

Do you value to sit with your family together for dinner? If, is your table big enough and does it suit?

Do you want a lively living room but prefer also space to study without interruption? Why not combine your sleeping room with your working room and make the living room as a space for social gathering?

Considerations like that are now put together by Ilaria Vilkelis. She is a coach, NLP Master Practitioner and has lived in several countries and various kinds of home, some where fulfilling with her lifestyle, some not. She is sharing her personal experience, experience of friends as well as her professional know how in this book which is ideal if you go for a new home. Or actually underrated, it can safe you lot of money and troubles as it guided you toward your decision for a happy home. And your happy home can be anything, it could be a common model of living but it also could be something far from traditional thinking.

With 164 pages this self published work is a quick read which is a good way in my opinion as a new home is often chosen in periods of change where we are often quite occupied.

It's available as paperback via Amazon as well as a kindle edition. The 16.81USD for the paperback or 10.18 for the kindle ed is definitely a great investment, even if you pick one small thing from the book to consider for your new home, I'm sure it pays off.

GW

Ilaria Vilkelis

Your Happy Home Quest: 10 Steps to Bringing More Love, Health, and Wealth into Your Life by Choosing the Right Home
2014. 164 pages. Softcover.
USD: 16.81
ISBN: 978-1496179548

Weblinks:

http://www.yourhappyhomequest.com/

Book's Facebook site:

https://www.facebook.com/yourhappyhomequest/info

Infinite Possiblities – Creating a fufilling life

(English only / dieser Artikel ist nur in Englisch)

Dorien De Vidts is an international speaker, trainer, facilitator and coach in the field of communication, personal leadership and wellbeing. Home in Belgium she enjoys traveling, making music and magically inspires the presence of people who have the pleasure to be around with her. She is a certified “Infinite Possibilities” coach by Mike Dooley and shaped the workshop “Infinite Possibilities – Creating a Fulfilling Life” which is on March 8^th in Vienna, Austria. More about this, here: http://slidesha.re/LWaUnH

As a co-host it's a pleasure to ask her a few question about the upcoming workshop.

GW: What does Infinite Possibilities mean for you?

Dorien De Vidts: Infinite possibilities is about the amazing potential we as human beings have to craft our lives into whatever we want it to be. Everything is possible. It makes me think of a quote of Audrey Hepburn, she says <Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “ I’m possible”>. That is what it means to me, whatever we want, whoever we want to be, it is possible if we truly believe it in the core of ourselves and put our hearts and minds into it and take action. I realize it sounds like such a cliché and clichés are clichés for a reason, there is truth at the heart of them. I remember when I wanted to become a trainer after only one year of real work experience. A lot of people told me that I was too young, that it wasn’t possible now. They probably had a point, however I decided to keep believing it was possible now. A couple of months later I met people in the training business that gave me a chance.

What can someone learn from the Infinite Possibilities workshop?

This workshop is about creating the life you want to lead. I truly believe we all have that capacity. In that sense it might not be about learning something completely new, it’s mostly about reconnecting to that capacity that is already inside of us. By connecting to ourselves, to our dreams and passions we can consciously create our lives day after day. The workshop offers that opportunity to reconnect, to stop and pause and to play around with some fun and inspiring practices that support us to create fulfilling lives.

Is there any requirements or things you appreciate a workshop participant should have?

Very simple … an open mind :)

When you do / decide / dream about something new, what is your preferred style of learning?

When I do/ decide/ dream about something new, it’s very important to include all my senses and not to focus on one learning style. Brain research has proven that as long as you intensely imagine something, your brain can’t tell the difference if it’s imagined or real. Imagining means more than just seeing it, it’s about involving all your senses. When I think about a dream I think about where I am when that dream is realized, who is with me, what I am seeing, doing, hearing, smelling or even tasting and most importantly: what I am feeling. Research has proven that our heart is at least as important as our brain when it comes to creating our lives. More about that at the workshop ;)…

Do you have some locations or an environment where you enjoy the present most or which are particular resourceful for you?

I think it’s not necessarily about an environment, it’s about truly enjoying where I am and what I am doing. That allows me to be fully present and to be in flow, to forget everything else around me and to connect to pure joy and that feeling is one of the strongest ways to create. That being said, there are circumstances when this happens to me more often like when I am taking a walk in nature, when I’m playing music, or when I am traveling and discovering new places.

I heard you love making music, which kind of music are you into?

It can be all kinds of music, from beautiful instrumental pieces to Pop to Latin to Motown music. The most important thing to me is the message of the music and the way it makes me feel. When I create music, it’s important to me that there is meaning in the words, that it’s a message that I want to share and that it's born out of an authentic emotion. And maybe I’ll share a couple of songs at the workshop ;)

What are your expectations visiting Vienna, beside of the workshop?

I am very much looking forward to discovering this beautiful city, to catch up with friends and to meet wonderful people. Other than that I don’t really have concrete expectations. I am already so excited to combine the delivery of the workshop with traveling and sharing a couple of songs. Combining personal development with traveling and music is a dream that is coming true and I am very happy about it :)!

Could you share a secret? What is one thing you consider to do and haven't told anyone about?

It’s always exciting and scary at the same time to answer these sorts of questions … a couple of people know this but I can probably count them on one hand, so here it goes … One thing I would love to do, is to create an album with my own songs. The objective is not to sell a million copies and to become famous, but to enjoy the process of creating and sharing music ;). 

You might also like an interview I did with Dorien, while we met in India 

Breaking an Arrow on the neck

Englisch version below.

Normal sein? Will man das wirklich? Norm-al? Also wie die Masse, wie eine Norm? Will man das wirklich?

Ich zumindest nicht. Lieber zähle ich zu den Verrückten, den positiv Verrückten. Und was bedeutet das: Mal was tolles, ausgefallenes und spannendes zu machen, etwas bei dem man so richtig lebendig ist. Wobei man sich etwas aus der Komfortzone bewegt.

Ein idealer Anlass dafür warn die Power Days von Jürgen Höllers, Deutschlands Mister Motivation der ganz oben in der Liga der Sprecher und Trainer mitmischt. Auf diesem Seminar gab es die Gelegenheit Pfeile zu zerbrechen. Jeder durfte einen Holzpfeil, wie man ihm vom Bogensport kennt, mit Stahlspitze an seinen Hals anlegen. Ein Partner haltet dann mit seiner Hand am stumpfen Ende dagegen, du bewegst dich auf den Partner zu und der Pfeil zerberstet in Stücken, wie eine weiche, zerbrechliche Salzstange. Genau so wie wir das in einer Gruppe aus knapp 2000 Teilnehmern in einem Top Zustand visualisiert hatten. Wie in Zeitlupe sehe ich das Bild vor Augen wo ich mich den Partner näherte und unter meinem Gesicht den biegenden Pfeil erspähte, der sich unter dem Druck meines Halses erst bog und dann schlagartig in drei Teile zersplitterte.

Es war gigantisch. Nun hatte ich schon das ein oder andere verrückte Erlebnis, das tolle daran war allerdings dass ich eine Gelegenheit suchte selbst verantwortlich zu sein. So war es mir eine besondere Freude die Haftungserklärung, die mich voll eigenverantwortlich machte, zu unterschreiben und das vorhaben durchzuführen. So ein Pfeil ist ein schönes Andenken, ein Anker was alles möglich ist der mich nun in Zukunft unterstützen soll, herausfordernde Angelegenheiten zu meistern.

Wer mal Lust hat selbst verrücktes zu tun und dabei hoch erfolgreich werden möchte, check mal www.jürgenhöller.de

GW

Being normal? Like the mass? Like a norm? Do we really like this? For me, at least the answer is no. I like to be crazy in a positive way. And what does that means. Something exciting, rare something you have a burning desire for. Something you move a bit out of the comfort zone.

An ideal opportunity have been the Power Days of Jürgen Höller. Germany's Mr. Motivation. One who is at the very top of Speakers and Coaches. At this seminar each member of the audience got the chance to place an wooden arrow, as used in bow-and-arrow sports, with a steel arrowhead, to place at his or her neck. A partner was holding up the butt end and you move toward the hand. It was as we had visualized it in a group of almost 2.000 people in a top state: the arrow bursts like a soft and brittle pretzel stick. As in slow motion I saw the picture moving toward my partner noticing the arrow who flexes first and crushes in three pieces as a next step.

It was a giant experience. Now I got a few crazy experiences already the great thing on this was that I was looking for an opportunity where I can be total self responsible. Because of this it was a special pleasure to sign a liability limitation which makes me fully self responsible and go for the act. And such a broken arrow is a great souvenir, an anchor that demonstrates what's possible and which should support me in future to overcome challenges.

If you know German and you're interested to do something crazy and to become highly successful, check: www.jürgenhöller.de 

GW

Finally We Met Again

English only.

Today was a fantastic day because I met my friend Dorien again! She is a learning and development professional from Belgium and we first met in July 2011. We have been to India where we did a volunteering project with IDEX (Indian Network for Development Exchange). I was really thirsty about coaching and personal development and as I met her I was super happy to met someone I can asked.

Dorien told me about NLP University (where I attend two years later for doing my praactitioner) and gave me recommendations on books and other resources. And much more then that. She really inspired me with two things. First, I was interested how our volunteering activity working with youth there can make a difference and looked hardly for ways making it better. She mentioned that just being with them makes a difference already. I hadn't thought that simple and was enlighted by that. And the secnd thing, a colleague of us had a family emergency and Dorien took over leadership in that important situation and helped out that person immediately, in the middle of the night.

Returned from our trip our friendship continued online and later I was looking for a coach and she started to coach me via skype. About once a month we had coaching sessions and she supported me in periods of lot of change, starting new work, moving to different countries, growing and becoming more complete.

And about three weeks ago we found out that we both have been to London around new years time.

So we met today, had lunch at a vegetarian restaurant near Picadilly, went for a beautiful sunny and blue-sky walk to St. James Park, Westminster Abbey and met later with my girlfriend Harriet and her friend Carmen at the National Gallery, followed by a dinner at a Italian restaurant in Soho.

It's not three years but there is so much to talk about with her. And it's simply wonderful to be in her presence. Just can say thank you for that beautiful day!

GW

You might also like an interview I did with Dorien, while we met in India

New Year Resolution? Get One Word.

Deutsche Version siehe unten. / German bekow. 

Jon Gordon, famous author and speaker about energy and greatitude have a brilliant approach. As much resolutions fail one word couldn't. It is all about choosing a word you like to live or get more of in the coming year. It can be everything, if you listen in yourself, you get it. Dream it, imagine it, choose it and go for it. Draw it, write it down, put reminders everywhere.

Jon's word for 2014 is “open”.

Today him and his approach was featured on the NBC Today show:

http://www.jongordon.com/blog/today-show-one-word/#!prettyPhoto[gallery]/0/

and he has also written a great and short book about:

www.getoneword.com

and much more, for example blank-posters, photos, videos are here to find: http://getoneword.com/resources-2/

For me this is not about promoting one of my favorite authors, it's that I'm really thrilled by the approach. My first round, last year, my choice was “follow”. I reached a point where I found I actually got all in life and have clearly defined my rules and values. So I choosen “follow” to follow who I was. While I did my NLP Practitioner in 2013 I realized how much I am and I redeveloped my learning. When I want to learn or do something new I do best if I simply follow my passions and desires instead of learning just from the books.

And for this year my word is:

somatic

I want to be, live, learn and act through the whole body. Sometimes I want to step a bit aside from the head, connect to the intelligence within my nervous system and field around me and get way more sensations.

For now, I really, really encourage you to get one word, and if so, please share it!

GW

Jon Gordon, bekannter Autor und Redner zu den Themen Energie und Dankbarkeit hat eine wundervolle Methode. Während die meisten Neujahrsvorsätze nicht eingehalten werden kann ein Wort quasi nicht auf der Strecke bleiben. Es geht darum sich ein Wort auszusuchen dass du für das nächste Jahr gerne mehr haben möchtest. Es darf wirklich alles sein. Hör in dich rein und du empfängst dein Wort. Träume es, stell es dir vor und lass dich darauf ein. Schreibe es nieder, male es, stell dir überall Erinnerungen auf.

Jon's Wort für 2014 ist „open“.

Heute wurde er von der NBC Today Show gefeatured:

http://www.jongordon.com/blog/today-show-one-word/#!prettyPhoto[gallery]/0/

Er hat auch ein kurzes, tolles Buch darüber geschrieben:

www.getoneword.com

und noch viel mehr gibt es auf seiner Website, u.a. gratis Poster auf denen man sein Wort eintragen kann, Fotos, Videos etc: http://getoneword.com/resources-2/

Mir geht es nicht darum einen meiner Lieblingsautoren zu promoten, sondern viel mehr um die Tatsache dass ich wahrlich beeindruckt von bin. Meine erste Runde mit „One Word“ war im letzten Jahr, damals hatte ich mir „follow“ zu meinem Wort des Jahres gemacht. Ich habe einen Punkt erreicht an dem ich meinen Werte und Regeln klar definiert hatte und wollte mir selbst mehr folgen, daher „follow“. 2013 habe ich auch meinen NLP Practitioner gemacht und habe dabei realisiert wie viel in mir steckt und habe meinen Lernstil überarbeitet indem ich einfach mir selbst gefolgt bin. Wenn ich etwas tun will oder etwas neues lernen will dann geht es am besten wenn ich einfach meinen Wünschen und Leidenschaften folge und etwas voll auslebe anstelle mir etwas durch lesen und schreiben zu lernen.

Und für dieses Jahr, das Wort das ich gewählt habe ist:

somatic

Ich möchte mit dem ganzen Körper sein, leben und handeln. Manchmal möchte ich ein Stück zur Seite treten vom reinen Kopfdenken und mit der Intelligenz meines Nevensystems in Verbindung treten, sowie dem Feld um mich herum um mehr Sensationen zu erfahren.

Für jetzt wünsche ich mir dass du dir auch ein Wort für 2014 aussuchst, und wenn würde ich mich sehr freuen wenn du es mir mitteilst.

GW.

Book Review: Dilts / DeLozier / Bacon Dilts: NLP II – The Next Generation

(Deutsche Version unten / German below)

As Neuro Linguistic Programming was first teached by Richard Bandler and John Grinder at the University of California in Santa Cruz Robert Dilts and Judith DeLozier have been first students of them and together they published a book in 1980, called NLP1. This first book which gave a main overview of NLP mentioned a second edition which should be more hands on. The author team continued to teach NLP but went on their own path and years passed by until it came to that second edition. Exactly 30 year later NLP II The Next Generation – Enriching the Structure of Subjective Experience was released. And this is a milestone. The filed of NLP developed vastly in three decades and this book is ideal as a hands-on guide for NLP Practitioners or people highly curious in personal development.

While the first generation was a lot focused on problem solving on the behavior, it's scope expand toward beliefs, values and meta-programs in a second generation and from there toward high level issues such as identity, vision and mission.

Neuro Linguistic Programming is about to increase and re-interpret individuals choices and as better something is known, understand or observed as more choices emerge and can be used. In it's book NLP II, Robert Dilts, Judith DeLozier and Deborah Bacon deliver an approach to increase choices as there focus is not just on the cognitive mind it's also on the – not to underestimate – somatic mind and field mind.

And this is how the book is structured. The cognitive chapter includes among others basic knowledge about the brain, mapping across, time frames, perceptual positions levels of learning. The somatic mind contains insides from the field of neurogastroenterology, neurocardiology, breathing, biofeedback, Dancing SCORE and Gabrielle Roth's 5Rythms® dance.

And the Field Mind chapter introduces mirror neurons, spirituality and purpose, how a field get created and how shared resources become available.

This books gave well explained introductions with paying attention to the founder or initiator of a certain tool or topic. There are lot of visuals and step by step instructions which allow readers to explore.

In my opinion it is NLP to it's full beauty! A book full of ideas and knowledge, one that should read by everyone looking for an answer what NLP is and a must read for any NLP practitioner.

GW

Robert Dilts / Judith DeLozier with Deborah Bacon Dilts

NLP II – The Next Generation 

Enrichting the Study of Structure of Subjective Experience

2010 / 432 Pages / Paperback

Price: approx. $ 29.95

ISBN: 978-0-916990-49-7

Meta Publications

Avaiable in bookstores or at Robert Dilts bookstore Journey to Genious: http://bit.ly/1b9Hyqs

Als Neurolinguistisches Programmieren erstmals bei Richard Bandler und John Grinder an der Universität von Kalifornien in Santa Cruz gelehrt wurde waren Robert Dilts und Judith DeLozier erste Lernende. Gemeinsam hat das Team im Jahr 1980 ein Buch publiziert, dass NLP I heißt. Dieses Buch, dass einen grundlegenden Überblick über NLP gab wies auf ein nachfolgendes Buch hin welches mehr zum Anwenden geeignet werden sollte. Das Autorenteam hat über die Jahre fortgesetzt NLP zu unterrichten allerdings ging es in getrennte Wege und exakt 30 Jahre später kam es zu „NLP II - die neue Generation: Strukturen subjektiver Erfahrung - die Erforschung geht weiter”. Und dabei handelt es sich um einen Meilenstein. Das Themengebiet NLP hat sich in drei Dekaden enorm erweitert und dieses Buch ist nun ein ideales Anwenderbuch für NLP Parctitioner and all jene die große Neugier im Gebiet der Persönlichkeitsentwicklung zeigen.

Während die erste Generation NLP seinen Schwerpunkt auf Problemlösung auf der Verhaltensebene hatte hat sich nun die Bandbreite zu Glaubenssätzen, Meta-Programmen und Werten ausgedehnt und von dort nochmals erweitert zur Identität, Visionen und Missionen.

Neurolinguistisches Programmieren dient zur Erweiterung und Re-Interpretierung von Möglichkeiten und je besser etwas gewusst, verstanden und beobachtet wird desto mehr Möglichkeiten entstehen und können bewusst genutzt werden. In ihrem Buch NLP II liefern Dilts, DeLozier und Bacon Dilts eine Herangehensweise für den Erhalt von mehr Möglichkeiten. Dieser ist nicht nur auf den „kognitiven Geist“ basierend, er weitet sich auf den - nicht zu unterschätzenden - „somatischen Geist“ und „Feld Geist“ aus.

Und in dieser Zusammenstellung ist auch das Buch strukturiert. Das Kapitel „Der kognitive Geist“ handelt unter anderem über allgemeines Wissen zum Gehirn und Sprache, Wahrnehmungspositionen, Metaprogramm-Muster, Zeiterleben. Folgend „Der somatische Geist“ führt den Leser zu den Bereichen Neurogastroenterologie, Neurokardiologie, Atmung, Biofeedback, Dancing S.C.O.R.E und 5Rythmen® von Gabriele Roth. Folgend das Kapitel „Der Feld Geist“ behandelt Spiegel-Neuronen, Spiritualität und Sinn sowie das Erkunden, Erzeugen und Zusammenwirken eines Feldes.

Dieses Buch bietet ausführlich beschriebene Einführungen, legt ein Augenmerk auf die jeweiligen Begründer einer Technik oder Theorie, besticht durch zahlreiche Abbildungen sowie Schritt-für-Schritt-Erklärungen die das Erkunden von NLP ermöglichen.

Meiner Meinung nach NLP in vollster Schönheit! Ein Buch voller Ideen und Wissen, eines das von jeden der eine Antwort auf die Frage „was ist NLP?“ gelesen werden sollte sowie Pflichtlektüre für jeden NLP Practitioner.

GW

Robert B. Dilts, Judith DeLozier, Deborah Bacon Dilts

NLP II - die neue Generation

Strukturen subjektiver Erfahrung - die Erforschung geht weiter

2013. 352 Seiten. Kartoniert.

Preis: € 34,90

ISBN: 978-3-87387-830-3

Junfermann Verlag

Erhältlich in gut sortiertem Buchhandel oder direkt beim Verlag: http://bit.ly/ItlPTX

A Tipping Point for More Optimism

Deutsch siehe unten.

Martin E. P. Seligman says that it is the response to event's what determines whether we are optimists or pessimists. Optimists see positive events as general and negative events as specific. For example the win of a sales-deal. An optimist would say: “I'm a great sales person”, “I care about people” “I do good with people”. If this deal would have been lost the optimists believes are like “this person have no particular demand for product xy at this time” etc. Pessimists react opposite: Seeing negative happenings as general (I'm not a good Sales person) and positive events specific (luckily I reached the right customer at the right time).

How can we be in control and act positive to the events that occur to us?

Our reaction have to do with our daily conditions and this is often influenced how we get into the day. In her book “The Power” Rhonda Byrne wrote about a “Tipping Point”. Once you turn yourself to what you love you are on a positive frequency. Therefore it is important to have more then 50 percent positive thoughts. Even 51% is good. Cause once you are above the tipping point you attract more of it. It is like an upward or downward spiral.

Concluding this an approach for more optimism is to tune ourselves positive and work on achieving a plus 50 percent positive thought balance. By getting above, we get more of and are more likely to respond positive to the events we have to master, seeing the positive in general and the negative specific. GW

Similar articles: Positive – Negative – Spiral 

Martin E. P. Seligman sagt dass die Reaktion der eintreffenden Ereignisse bestimmt, ob wir Optimisten oder Pessimisten sind. Optimisten sehen positive Ereignisse als generell und negative als spezifisch. Zum Beispiel beim Gewinnen eines Verkaufs. Ein Optimist würde sagen: „Ich bin ein großartiger Verkäufer.“ „Ich mag Menschen / Kunden.“ Sollte es nicht zu einem Verkauf kommen so sind mögliche Glaubenssätze „Diese Person hat keinen speziellen Bedarf für Produkt xy zu dieser Zeit.“ Pessimisten reagieren umgekehrt: Sie sehen negative Vorfälle als allgemein (ich bin kein guter Verkäufer) und positive als spezifisch (ich habe den richtigen Kunden zum richtigen Zeitpunkt erreicht).

Wie können wir Kontrolle übernehmen und zu den täglich eintreffenden Ereignissen positiv reagieren?

Oftmals hat unsere Reaktion mit unserer täglichen Konditionierung zu tun und diese ist oftmals davon beeinträchtigt wie wir in den Tag gehen. In ihrem Buch „The Power“ schrieb Rhonda Byrne über einen „Tipping Point“. Wenn du dich jenem zuwendest, dass du liebst so ziehst du mehr davon an. Dazu ist es wichtig mehr als 50% positive Gedanken zu haben. Selbst 51% sind gut. Denn sobald du über den „Tipping Point“ bist ziehst du mehr davon an. Es ist eine Aufwärts- oder Abwärtsspirale.

Zusammengefasst ist eine Herangehensweise für mehr Optimismus sich positiv einzustimmen um mehr als 50% positive Gedanken zu erreichen, mehr davon anzuziehen und somit positiver auf tägliche Ereignisse reagieren. Und dabei das Positive als generell und das Negative als Spezifisch zu sehen. GW

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